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You’ve felt isolated for as long as you can remember—like the odd one out in your family, at school, and even in friend groups.

It took time to realize you see the world differently than those around you, even the people closest to you. And when you did, it was hard to know what to do with that truth.

You were teased for being “too emotional” or “too sensitive.” Over the years, you learned it was easier to blend in—mimicking social behaviors, adopting personality traits, even changing the way you spoke—just to avoid sticking out. You didn’t consciously decide to do it. It was your ego’s way of keeping you safe from embarrassment or rejection.

But a lifetime of shape-shifting leaves its mark. You feel isolated, awkward, vulnerable… and, more than anything, confused. Somewhere along the way, you lost track of you.

Maybe you never fully developed your own personality. Maybe you’re not sure what you genuinely like or care about. Your friends—few but diverse—don’t really know each other, and you naturally adjust who you are depending on who you’re with. The thought of gathering them all in one room feels strange. Which version of you would show up?

This chameleon habit started young, a survival tactic to fit in and avoid being outcast. Over time, it expanded into people-pleasing. You learned to be useful so others would have a reason to keep you around. You put other people’s needs ahead of your own, rarely stopping to ask what’s right for you.

Helping others feels generous, even loving—and you take pride in being good at it. But it also leaves you unseen, unappreciated, and running on empty. So you try harder… and end up feeling emptier.

This was my story too. If any part of it feels like yours—and you’re ready to discover who you are, and how to be yourself in the presence of others—stay with me.