Living in a Toxic Culture While Building Boundaries
Revised: July 7, 2025 “No society can understand itself without looking at its shadow side.” ~ Dr. Gabor Mate on toxic culture There is a lot of discussion about boundaries in the therapeutic community these days, especially for empaths, but what I find lacking from these discussions is the honest discussion of the toxic nature […]
Developing the Intuitive Mind
Revised: August 16, 2025 The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift. ~ Albert Einstein The intuitive yes is hard to hear when you first begin to sharpen this skill. It is quiet but […]
You’re Not a Narcissist—You’re an Empath with Boundaries
Revised: July 7, 2025 Narcissists are masters of pathologizing your emotions. They convince you that your emotional reactions to the abuse are the problem, rather than the abuse itself. ~ Shahida Arabi, explaining how you’re not a narcissist Over the years, I have told countless clients, “no, you’re not a narcissist.” I understand the question, […]
Demystifying Shadow Work
Revised: July 7, 2025 Your Shadow isn’t a ‘thing’ or even a ‘place’ but a relationship that you have with certain parts of yourself that you’ve hidden. By improving this relationship, you can improve your life. ~ Oli Anderson on shadow work Spiritual teachers talk about shadow work in flowery language that confuses more than it illuminates. […]
Empaths, Mental Health, and Spiritual Awakenings
Revised: July 8, 2025 On Spiritual Awakening: “You have to grow from the inside out. None can teach you, none can make you spiritual. There is no other teacher but your own soul.” ~ Swami Vivekananda The Overlap between Empathic Sensitivities, Mental Illness, and Spiritual Awakening After 11 years of listening to empaths share their […]
Empathic Merging
Revised: July 8, 2025 On empathic merging: “As empaths, we are not here to be sponges or enablers. We are here to be helpers, guides, and supporters.” ~ Aletheia Luna Narcissists, Soulmates, and Owning Your Energy In a previous post, The Energy of Boundaries, I explained that empaths merge unconsciously with everyone until they learn how […]
The Energy of Boundaries
Revised: July 8, 2025 Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others. ~ Brene Brown Once upon a time, I was struggling to find myself. I was working with a spiritual counselor and energy healer to deconstruct who I was, how I developed all these […]
Soul Connections
Revised: July 8, 2025 Souls have deep connections and unique contracts that span centuries, exist back and forth in time, and bind us in ways we can’t really understand…. These connections are ancient and everlasting, and they already exist in our hearts, even if we’re not always aware of them. ~ Laura Lynne Jackson Reincarnation, […]
Choosing Presence
Revised: July 8, 2025 When you love someone, the best thing you can offer is your presence. How can you love if you are not there? ~ Thich Nhat Hanh As a result of growing up in an environment that didn’t allow space for the expression of emotions, many empaths learned to stuff down their […]
Stop Attracting Toxic Relationships
Revised: July 8, 2025 If you do not understand your emotions you are not in control of your life. You do not know who you are and you are prey for people who can manipulate you. ~ Karla McLaren One of the most common patterns I work with empath on healing is attracting toxic relationships. […]