What I am actually saying is that we need to be willing to let our intuition guide us, and then be willing to follow that guidance directly and fearlessly.
As a modern, wealthy society, we have developed a silent, unconscious belief that runs the operating system of our lives: We believe that life is supposed to work out.
We believe that if we are “good,” if we eat the right food, do the therapy, and set the boundaries, we are owed a happy ending.
Consequently, if life doesn’t work out—if we get sick, if the relationship fails, or if the business struggles—we internalize it as a personal failure. We think, “I must have done something wrong, or this wouldn’t be happening.”
In psychology, there is a name for this: The Just World Hypothesis. It is the cognitive bias that assumes the world is fundamentally fair and that noble actions will always lead to noble results.
But for the spiritual seeker and the empath, this belief is not just a psychological quirk; it is a spiritual block. And unlearning it is some of the hardest, most necessary work we will ever do.
The Ancestral Reality Check
This expectation of constant happiness and fairness is a very new, very modern luxury.
Our ancestors did not operate under the delusion that life was “supposed” to be easy. For the vast majority of human history, life was focused on survival, not self-actualization. They understood that hardship was not a personal failure; it was a condition of being human. They thanked their ancestors for the hard work that allowed them to survive, but they did not expect the universe to cater to their comfort.
We, however, have evolved to a place of privilege where we focus on “ego needs” and self-actualization. While this is a gift, it has a shadow side: We have convinced ourselves that we can control the chaos of life if we just perform “wellness” perfectly enough.
The Myth of Certainty: The Intuition Trap
This brings us to the most dangerous misconception about intuition.
Many of us come to this work believing that if we develop our intuition, we will finally be safe. We treat intuition like an insurance policy. We think, “If I can just get my intuition clear enough, I will never make a mistake again“.
We are trying to use intuition to enforce the Just World Hypothesis. We want a guarantee that our “good behavior” (listening to intuition) will dictate a “good experience” (no pain).
This desire for certainty is rooted in an unhealed Solar Plexus need for control. We are taught that safety comes from hoarding—hoarding money, hoarding status, and hoarding information. We want the whole map before we take a single step.
But Spirit doesn’t work on a hoarding model. Spirit operates on “Just-in-Time” economics.
Your guides and your intuition are rarely going to give you the five-year plan. Why? Because you couldn’t carry the weight of that knowledge. Instead, they give you the breadcrumb. They give you the impulse for the next right step.
The "Glitch": Why Intuitive People Still Get Hurt
There is a pervasive myth that if you followed your intuition and things “went wrong,” your intuition must be broken.
- “I felt drawn to this job, but the boss was toxic. My intuition failed me.”
- “I knew I should date him, but he broke my heart. I can’t trust myself.”
This is a misunderstanding of what intuition is for.
Your intuition is your GPS. Its job is to facilitate your soul’s evolution, not your ego’s comfort. Sometimes, the “mistake” is the curriculum. Sometimes, you are guided into a difficult situation because that is exactly where you will learn to set a boundary or reclaim your voice.
And sometimes, your intuition leads you through a difficult situation not to save you from the wreck, but to ensure you sustain minimal damage. The world is unpredictable with many moving parts. We do not fully understand its mechanisms or why they move the way they do. Your intuition may have actually guided you to the safest possible route through a storm that was inevitable.
But there is another reason we feel our intuition fails us, specifically in relationships. As empaths, we have a unique blind spot: We often see the Soul, not the personality.
Before I understood energy, I would see people only on a soul level. I would see their glowing potential, their light, and their Higher Self. But I was blind to their personality—their unhealed patterns, their defense mechanisms, and their daily choices.
I was often confused when their actions didn’t match the beautiful energy I felt coming from their soul. I thought my intuition was wrong. But my intuition wasn’t wrong; it was just incomplete. I was seeing who they could be, but I had to live with who they actually were.
Thriving as an empath requires the technical skill of checking your empathic download against their behaviors and actions. You must learn to trust the data of their behavior just as much as you trust the data of their energy.
This brings us back to the problem of wanting guarantees. We want to know for sure who someone is before we get hurt. But because humans have free will, that certainty is impossible.
Certainty is Static; Intuition is Flow
The desire for certainty is loud. It feels like anxiety. It loops, it screams urgency, and it demands proof. Intuition, on the other hand, is neutral. It is a quiet, singular “knowing”.
Cultivating intuition is hard work because it requires us to tolerate the void of the unknown. It requires us to stand in the middle of chaos and say, “I don’t know where this leads, but I know I need to turn left right now.”
If you are waiting for 100% certainty before you move, you aren’t waiting for intuition. You are waiting for safety. And in a shifting world, safety is an illusion.
True safety doesn’t come from knowing the future. It comes from trusting your ability to navigate it.
Navigating the Spiral
You will make mistakes. You will misread the signal. You will project your desires onto your intuition. This is not failure; this is the Spiral of Healing.
Every time you circle back to a lesson, you are doing it with more insight and understanding than you had before. The goal isn’t to be a perfect person who never feels pain. The goal is to be a grounded, integrated human who can distinguish the noise of their fear from the whisper of their truth.
Stop asking for the map. Trust the breadcrumb.
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