Empaths and sensitives often have trouble identifying, going after, and achieving our dreams and goals – be they personal, relationship, or business. Discovering the recipe for what will truly fulfill us requires self-awareness.
Most of our beliefs and behaviors are set by age 6 or 7. This includes how we handle stress, how resilient we are when we fail, how we motivate ourselves, as well as what we believe we are allowed to have, desire, and go after. Including our careers, types of relationships, level of wealth, and so on.
We learn these beliefs and behaviors from our parents, our friends/siblings, and from our community. Some may be authentic to our nature but some may simply be demonstrated for us enough that we take it on as our identity. A learned behavior rather than an authentic trait.
Discerning, achieving, striving for, and creating the life we want requires us to become aware of boundaries, emotions, and needs. Unmet needs, crossed boundaries, and the surfacing of buried emotions activate our unconscious programming. Those behaviors that are reactive, destructive, and usually result in self-sabotage.
Some behaviors will be easy to change and some will require us to do some healing and inner work to shift the emotions/wound/belief the behavior is defending, concealing, or protecting.
Becoming conscious or self-aware is the cornerstone of a spiritual journey. A path that leads to the development of our authentic self, our true nature. The one who exists under all of our armor and self-protections. Or as Maslow explains, Self-Actualized.
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