“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” ~ Jack Kornfield
I stopped to listen to the thoughts in my head the other day after a particularly bad day. One of those days that starts with oversleeping and just keeps getting worse. My thoughts were not kind or compassionate. I was chastising and criticizing myself the way only I can. And you know what? I would never, ever speak to anyone I love the way I was talking to myself. But when I am feeling bad and not being kind to me, I am much more likely to behave badly to strangers and acquaintances. I need to remember that as a human being, by definition, I am imperfect and I need to speak to myself with compassion and love. I didn’t treat myself well that day and I did indeed spread negativity and unkindness around.
Compassion and kindness for all begins with compassion for the self. If you wouldn’t talk to your partner, mother, or child the way you talk to yourself, then stop, stop now. We are all deserving of our own love and compassion. We grow when we are loved. So if I am committed to spreading love and kindness (and I am), then I must stop berating myself. Instead, I will work on showing love to the part of myself that is trying and failing, so I can try again.
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Laura Rowe is an intuitive energy healer. Living in Portland, Oregon, Laura founded The Vital Spirit, an entity that seeks to be an instrument in the ongoing shift in human consciousness. Laura works with adults who identify as highly sensitive persons or empaths and are committed to learning about who they are and how they want to express themselves in this world. She helps these individuals clear energetic blocks, release limiting beliefs, thrive in their business/careers and navigate interpersonal relationships so they can live life to the fullest.