“Courage,” originally meant to speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart. ~ Brene Brown
Ever since childhood, I was accused of being “too sensitive.” For years, I bought into that idea. I felt bad about being sensitive. I felt shame about crying at the movies or when a friend was telling me about the bad time they were going through.
These days I am unapologetic when it comes to my sensitivity. I don’t always appreciate its timing. I sometimes find it inconvenient or frustrating, but I have come to value my vulnerability, my empathy, and my compassion. These are what help me be human. It has helped me help others through difficult times. And I have come to believe that emotional honesty is what I am here to teach others.
Life can be hard, it can appear unfair, and it can make you want to adopt cynicism and a hard shell. I understand, I have been there. Here is the truth, when we put on armor to stifle our emotions, we don’t just stifle pain and sadness, we stifle joy and happiness. In fact, did you know that the number one emotion that people stifle is joy? Crazy, right? Why? Because we are so afraid of joy ending and pain and sadness returning. Or we feel unworthy and if we experience some joy, it means that something awful will happen to balance the scales again. So we learn to stuff our emotions, both good and bad. Stuffing our emotions down is, at best, a stop-gap measure, and at its worst, a recipe for a myriad of disease both physical as well as mental; stress, depression, anxiety, heart disease, breast cancer and on and on.
Learning how to feel your feelings after a lifetime of stuffing them down can take time and probably shouldn’t be rushed. However, I have developed a nightly ritual that can help you begin to bring down the walls around your heart so you can truly experience your life. Try this ritual for yourself. Let me know how it goes for you.
The ability to feel and then choose our emotions is invaluable for achieving emotional balance. For some people, who feel their emotions very deeply, this can seem impossible. I promise you, it isn’t impossible, it just takes some practice and a desire to live a full spectrum life. A life of experiencing the full emotional spectrum. The highs of life really are worth learning how to experience the lows of life. If you are suffering from profound guilt, anger, shame, or other damaging emotions, I encourage to seek out assistance, both in processing those difficult emotions but also is learning how to set proper boundaries in your life and relationships.
Much love to you all, Laura
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Laura Rowe is an Intuitive Strategist & Spiritual Teacher at The Vital Spirit. Living in Portland, Oregon, Laura founded The Vital Spirit, an entity that seeks to be an instrument in the ongoing shift in human consciousness. She has a background in business operations, a master’s degree in organizational management, and she currently serves empaths and lightworkers who are living their Light in their livelihoods, relationships, and communities.